A toxic person is anyone who is abusive, unsupportive, or unhealthy emotionally—someone who basically brings you down more than up.

Quotes: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Jim Rohn

These words opened my eyes to the fact that the people we hang out with, the people we call friends, they all have an influence on the decisions we make in life, and therefore the success we have or don’t have. Many a time we are tempted to believe everything they tell us.

“Don’t let anyone deceive you. Associating with bad people will ruin decent people”. Bible

Businesses, families, institutions, organizations, and governments ruined because of toxic people who have been allowed into the systems.

Unfortunately, not everyone pushes us to be better or reach our goals. Some people stop us from following our dreams or talk us out of taking a risk, and we don’t always realize that it’s happening. So it’s important to be aware, guard and consciously choose who we spend time with, to limit spending time with negative person.

Like these personalities example you should avoid when pursuing dreams:

The Complainers

Complainers are people who are always complaining about how bad their life or job or whatever is. They constantly complain about everything but never do anything about it.

Being around a complainer can really poisoned you—maybe you begin to join in on the complaints, and before you know it, you adopt their same way of negative thinking and start conduct yourself like them. That pessimism is contagious. That is why you should think twice before sitting down with a complainer.

“Do not be fooled by those who say such things. If you listen to them you will start acting like them.Bible

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Never give it.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

Avoid people who focus on your weakness (your past) instead of your dream.

The Conformers

Conformers are the most popular of all. They are the ones who conform to the limits set on them. They do not have any dreams they are chasing after, and they are not doing something that goes against the status quo. They are simply living like robots—waking up, working 40 hours a week at a job they hate, going home, sleeping and doing it all over again.

There are many people who are content with this, and that is perfectly fine. But a person who is following their dreams simply cannot conform to the average life. So while working your full-time job, put in the extra effort on the side to start building toward something that’s more in line with your dreams. And eventually you will be able to pursue you purpose full time. Quote is from Success Magazine

The Doubters

Doubters can be downers—they will listen to your big dreams, but they will be the first ones to tell you they don’t think it is a good idea or not to get your hopes up. They are the ones who believe you have to “be somebody” in order to do something extravagant. They cannot act on anything you have agreed on. These people should not think they will receive anything from the work they are doing; they are double-minded people, unstable in all they do. And they kill your passion and desire to do what you want to do.

As somebody who is chasing their dreams, this can be very discouraging and frustrating, so identifying the doubters in your group will be beneficial to you and your success in the future. Likewise, it is extremely important to keep supportive people around you, people who encourage you and lift your spirits when you are losing motivation.

So, surround yourself with people who will support and encourage you to chase your goals, through the good and the bad. Your success depends on it.

Here are some signs that a person is toxic:

  • You’re left feeling emotionally exhausted after an encounter with them because he didn’t add any value to you.
  • They try to intimidate you to get their way.
  • They try control you by guilt tripping.
  • They are easily jealous.
  • They give backhanded compliments. …
  • They overshare.

What is toxic trait?

  • A toxic trait is a behavioral pattern that is deleterious to either the person himself and/or the people they are connected to. By enacting the trait(s), they create a negatively charged environment around them that fosters nothing but stress, anxiety, depression and the likes.

Dealing with toxic people

Avoid playing into their reality

Some people have a tendency to see themselves as the victim in every situation. If they mess up, they might shift the blame to someone else or tell a story that paints them in a more positive light.

You might feel tempted to nod and smile in order to prevent an angry outburst. This might feel like the safest option, but it can also encourage them to see you as a supporter.

Don’t get drawn in

Dealing with someone’s toxic behavior can be exhausting. The person might constantly complain about others, always have a new story about unfair treatment, or even accuse you of wronging them or not caring about their needs.

Resist the urge to jump on the complaining train with them or defend yourself against accusations. Instead, respond with a simple, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” and leave it at that.

Talk to them about their behavior

Someone who speak negatives, manipulates others, or creates dramatic situations night not realize how their behavior affects you or anyone else. An open conversation may help them realize this behavior is unacceptable.

To keep things neutral, try to stick to “I statements,” which feel less accusatory for the other person, and set boundaries that work for you.

Here are some examples of this in action:

  • “I feel uncomfortable when I hear unkind things about our co-workers. I won’t participate in those conversations.”
  • “I value trust in friendship, so I can’t continue this friendship if you lie to me again.

Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life.

Enjoy your personal transformation and radical change as you move forward in life.

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    • Hi, Sherry! I am so happy to hear your genuine heart, how this article impacted you. Your comment is highly appreciated. Together we can become better people.

  2. It is true, there are some kinds of people out there who do not actually want others to go up and get better, they prefer for them to be down and below them. I think you are right to see this kind of people as toxic. They do not usually want to help and are not usually nice to other people too. I like that you can treat this topic. Thanks!

    • Hi, Payton! It is my pleasure to read your lovely comment and trust that you have learned something that helps you and others. Personally, I refuse to be toxic and choose to be kind and at the same time know how to distance myself swiftly from toxic ones.

  3. toxic trait is a behavioral pattern that is deleterious to either the person himself and/or the people they are connected to. By enacting the trait(s), they create a negatively charged environment around them that fosters nothing but stress, anxiety, depressionToxic people can change, but it’s highly unlikely. What is certain is that nothing anyone else does can change them. It is likely there will be broken people, broken hearts and broken relationships around them – but the carnage will always be explained away as someone else’s fault.Some people become toxic due to learned behavior that causes maladaptive coping skills in society and in relationships. …

  4. Hello there! this is an amazing review you have got here. I believe this honest post will help other readers who come across it as it has helped me at the moment. perfect topic to write on it really dragged my attention i just could not ignore it i just realized that i have a lot of toxic friends around me and i need to cut them off thanks for sharing this with me 

    • Hi, Joy! Thank you so much for your honesty and for first allowing the article to address you then start to have a new perspective of you can guard your own life. Because you are the architect of your own life and you have to make sure that your life is accurate and well-shaped.

  5. I love that article for so many reasons but one really simpem reason I like it is because we all have got to understand what it means to be toxic and now we can see if we are toxic to other people too as much as they can be to us. Being toxic seem so easy for you to fall in the category and so we all ha r to be careful with our dealings and try to get things going smoothly with others 

  6. Md. Asraful Islam

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    • Hi, Md. Asraful Islam! Thank you so much for being touched by this article and even want to share with others so that they may benefit from it. With that, I am allowing you to share with your Facebook group.

  7. Hello There, thank you for taking your time to compile and share this informative and resourceful article. This article is centered on who a toxic person is.  From your definition of who  a toxic person is, I can say I’ve come across quite a lots of people like that.  Having to relate with such people is not easy especially when you do not have a choice. 

    • Hello, Lesley! That is true what you say, and that is why we also need wisdom in order to deal with those kinds of people. Love and kindness can help us then distance ourselves from them when necessary.

  8. Yes, I have had my fair share of toxic persons in my life. The always bring you down and I really didn’t notice that their friendship was that toxic until I really began to reap the effects of constantly listening to them. I’m so glad I identified this problem and am working to create a healthy distance. Thank you very much for the points mentioned here. I appreciate reading about this topic.

  9. This article is an eye opener for me as well as other readers who are going to come across the article ,often times people don’t tend to realize that  they are surrounded by toxic people i am glad our article explained everything in a very understandable manner ,thank you so much for the article 

    • Hi, Audrey! I am so overwhelmed by your comment and how it impacted you and also believing that it can help other people, which is very true. I like your openness of heart. I am also a changed person from the inside out. Your comment is highly appreciated. Wishing you the best.

  10. Md. Asraful Islam

    Thank you so much for sharing with us an informative and interesting article. The main content of this article is about a person who will not support you but will take other sites down. Such people will not do anything for you, but if you do something, there will be no end to complaining about his life experience. We will try to stay away from such people because their use and conversation may ruin any of your dreams.

    Finally, I would like to say that I enjoyed reading your article and I would like to share it on my Facebook group to let people know about this toxic person if you allow me.

  11. Being toxic is really not something that most people display straightaway. It is a process of getting to knowing people that you can discover that they are toxic. For example,I once encountered an issue with my friend and she torn my exam papers just because she did woefully in her exams herself. I was shocked when I found out and confronted her. Which she admitted.

    • That’s true for all that you said, but the good thing is that you didn’t respond to the person harshly or in a bad manner, that is why you have managed to confront her and she admitted. So we will continue to our level best to be kind. Our daily good lifestyle will eventually affect the people around us.

  12. It’s very true that being in a relationship with a toxic person is like living in a choke box, I personally don’t like people making me feel like I’m nobody or I’m less, I wouldn’t treat you like that so I don’t condone it either. I like the fact that you’ve unraveled this fact and it’s good to spend our time with people who are rather good for us than someone who’ll bring us down.

  13. Hi Johane, I’ve read your article “A toxic person is anyone who is abusive, unsupportive, or”.

    I have learned a lot from reading your post! It helped me and will help the other readers. 

    Having to relate with these people is not good especially when you do not have a choice.

    I enjoyed reading your article! It is really well written. 

    You explained this topic in an amazing way! Congratulations! 

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